Re: Endless Discussion Topic, e.g. positive/negative
Posted: 16 Sep 2014, 14:58
This assumption is what really "grinds my gears". Just because the way someone says things does not please people, it doesn't nullify the fact that there can be truth in this words spoken. By ignoring this, it's like you are biting the bullet. Still, for a constructive discussion you need to try to please the people you are talking to, but the people listening should also be able to comprehend the frustration in their dialogue partners because they are simply not listening to valid critics. I say, each critic is justified and it would be better to listen to it instead of playing deaf and missing the jackpot.Furthermore - if your intention is to clarify the current issues of Maniaplanet, Shootmania or whatever - being constructive and having good manners might eventually fullfill your dream that any of those suggestions you wrote in your post, will be implemented or considered in the developing process. But, if you do not change anything regarding your tone, Nadeo and other guys will only brand you as a ''negative guy''. If people might think (that you are a negative guy) they will not focus on your probably valid aspects, they will not agree, they will rather disagree by thinking in the back of their head ''This is a negative guy, this can't be right''. Obviously, this may sound absolutely strange, weird or whatever but this is my assumption.
Yeah, I know that. It's really good that you're reading everything!Hylis wrote:I read everything, from negative to positive.
Yes, it is definitely better for the community to be nice. That's the reason I wrote:Hylis wrote:I am mainly saying that the party would be better with less negativity around. It's for the people at the party that I am telling this, not for me.
So the best behaviour for players would be to write your criticism in a nice way, but still bringing along all your points.
haha, no way! That's a great attitude. Always preading the good vibe!Hylis wrote: Do you really think I would care about the judgement of people for which I am more sad than impressed? I would rather try to convince other people to help them, the same way than the car.
Yes, that's a good observation and I agree!Hylis wrote:There are so many conflict that comes from thinking negative first instead of trying to understand.
Obviously it is stupid to wish things that are already there. But on the other hand I have to say that the maniaplanet system has become very complex over the years, which is why it's easier to miss out on things. I haven't seen a game with such a complex gaming platform in my entire life. So I can understand it a bit that sometimes players complain about things that have already changed.Hylis wrote:I often go see the wishlist of people that are angry, and regularly see that we did already some of their major points.
If you walk in to your office at work and see that a guy is taking a big dump on your desk, will you complement him on his haircut? (this is an example and in no way is this what I think Nadeo is doing)haenry wrote:Yes Hylis, you're right by saiying that a lot of people see the bad things first (probably due to the problem above) and then judge too quickly, and thus a lot of conflicts appear.
For the love of god, when will you hire your own personal English -> French translator? I have made it clear on several occasions over the last couple of years that either you 1) Don't understand english or 2) Deliberately misunderstand what you read.Hylis wrote:But for me, the topic here is about the negative effect of being negative toward the other members of the community. It's like in a party, if you have negativeness, it's less interesting to stay. Look at the first sentence of this thread and see if it's something normal: "Can your tongue be any further up Nadeos nosunshine-place? " Now imagine I would write like that how much negative it would be perceived. You can be super critic and positive at the same time. Being negative is just negative..